Monday, March 01, 2010

At Least He Didn't Use a Balloon

I have to think that, were he alive today, King Solomon would have all video cameras cut in half. A few thoughts on this item:

1. If Mommy & Daddy can't agree on religion for the kid, I hope they can agree on how to split up the therapy bill later.

2. There are many healthy strategies to placate your in-laws. Religious conversion is not one of them.

3. One wonders what insidious factors destroyed this obviously devout traditional marriage between a man and a woman.

Any to add?



Leigh C. said...

This brings custody battles to a new low. Using religion as a way to treat one's child as a pawn in a larger argument is nothing new, but bringing this into a secular courtroom is just crazy and hurtful. This will probably be used as yet another case against intermarriage amongst the Jewish congregations and sects in this country...with the courts' willingness to take this case on being the nail in the coffin.

Under Jewish law, since the child's mother is Jewish, the child is Jewish, and it would take a LOT to excommunicate her from Judaism. The way these parents are carrying on, though, eventually this girl will probably be of the same mind as one Salon commenter said: she'll eschew any and all religion and religious practice as an adult.

And boy, thanks for that pukeworthy story of the day. 8-P

Dante said...

There's a difference between not agreeing on the religion you should raise your child under and going Geraldo over that disagreement. But IMHO, making a one-time agreement about which religion to raise your child under is just as unrealistic as converting for the sake of marriage. What if they were both devout Jews and one had a legitimate conversion to another religion? Do you think it's realistic to expect that converted parent to keep their beliefs to themselves around their own kid?

The best way to keep this girl from rejecting religion outright is for her parents to be the best examples they can be and making sure their child is aware that religion is a part of being that example. If the father wants to expose his child to Catholicism* then he should be free to do so, but he shouldn't baptize his daughter just to rub it in his ex's face.** If a religion can't stand on its own merits, then maybe it shouldn't be followed. Either way, I really hope for the sake of this kid the parents can make peace with their religious differences enough that a court doesn't have to weight in on those differences.

* Or Bhuddism, Islam, whatever. I just want to point out that I'm sure as hell not defending this move for Catholicism's sake. If I were, I wouldn't have set up a zinger by putting "expose" and "Catholicism" in the same sentence. I thought about trying to work in a priest exposing Catholicism, but I think it got in the way of my post's point just for the sake of a joke.

** I'm not saying this is what is happening here, but the use of TV cameras sure makes it seem that way.